Cuffing Season (when people get into a relationship just for the winter) is officially OVER.
I don’t know about you but I’m ready for rooftop bars, rosé drinks and outside gigs and movies are a must. There is something magical about being single in summer. Dating is easier as you are not confined to indoor activities. Evenings are longer so you can enjoy the pub garden and still use public transport home safely (we hope!) and in general everyone is in a better mood.
If you are sick of online dating, Summer is the time you can go old school and go to a buzzing bar or restaurant and chances of meeting a match are 50% higher than in Winter.
So, if you are single here are some top Summertime tips.
- In all my years as a dating coach the most success is gained from going out on the hunt for a potential partner with one other single person. If you have a wing man/woman who is not single you will be giving off mismatched vibes. You will be open and ready to chat to potential suitors and they are closed and far from interested in having to entertain ‘the friend’.
- While you flirt your socks off they are desperate to drop them so you can get back to it being just the two of you. So, make it easier for yourself and get a single wing person.
- Yes, it is still possible to go out, chat to lots of people, get multiple numbers and be asked out on a date all in one night out. It sounds like an urban legend but whenever I take my clients out for a live coaching session we never leave ’empty handed’.
- During a coaching session I teach clients how to flirt, spot red flags, how to approach someone, how to ask if they are single without actually asking if they are single and then if all goes well seal the deal with swapped social media/number etc. Recently I was with a client and we finished the evening with 2 numbers and a kiss and she said she hadn’t snogged anyone in a bar in years and it was one of the best nights of her whole single life. Keep the faith – it’s possible.
- Check your local magazine (Surrey Rocks Calendar on page 15 is fab!) for fun activities. Look for wine tasting, art classes, choirs, pottery making etc.
- Try to make the activities solo ones. I know it’s scary but you will be much more inclined to speak to others if you are there alone and not clinging to your plus one like a safety net which can stop you really enjoying the company of other strangers and potential meet new friends in the group. Doing activities is always a winner for meeting people. Remember, meeting new friends can be just as valuable as meeting a romantic partner. If all your mates are in a relationship you need more single wing men and wing women to help you.
Not only will the activity be fun (even if you can’t paint or make pottery for toffee!) you will feel proud to have gotten out of your comfort zone and achieved something. You also have a great topic to discuss for your next date night.
Remember, on a date it’s not just you who are judging them, but they are also judging you and you will be able to showcase a much more interesting side of you with good topics to chat about and a nice list of interesting hobbies.
If you are in a relationship this month then beware of the ‘June Drift.’ This is where the warm weather brings the drifting of couples as they start spending more time out of the house independently of each other and over the course of the next couple of months, that distance can lead to the breakdown of the relationship because you just haven’t spent any quality time together and drifted apart. So make sure you make time for date nights. Make time for sex too! Make time for listening to each other. Try to avoid drifting, if you are aware of it, as you are now cause you’re reading this it will be easier to spot!
Happy June you lovely lot, catch up again in August, when we will discuss sizzling love making to keep your relationship HOT!!!!
