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By Zahra Anderson<\/p>\n
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Now, I know I\u2019ve talked a lot about wearing lingerie for yourself. And how lingerie can be about what you want and needand how you feel about yourself. But there are definitely aspects of lingerie that have to do with other people, and the way in which lingerie can be part of a connection between partners should not be overlooked. A question I often hear from people not as enmeshed in lingerie as I am is, \u201cHow does wearing lingerie for your boyfriend\/girlfriend actually work?\u201d<\/p>\n
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This guide is for those people who want to wear lingerie for a special occasion, but just aren\u2019t sure exactly how to pull it off, in the personal and the practical sense. In this case I\u2019m going to address lingerie in relation to a long-term relationship. Here are my eight tips to bear in mind if you\u2019re going to wear lingerie for yourself and your partner:<\/p>\n
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CONFIDENCE<\/p>\n
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Wear what makes you feel sexy. The whole point of this adventure is for both you and your partner to have a good time! Confidence is the most important part of this whole experience \u2013and the key ingredient to feeling both beautiful and desirable. If you feel supremely confident, you don\u2019t really even need the rest of these tips, but I know for some people, having lots of ideas and instructions will help bolster lingerie courage.<\/p>\n
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THE ACT OF DISCOVERY IS SEXY<\/p>\n
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I\u2019m quite fond of wearing lingerie under regular clothes because I love the moment when my partner realises that I\u2019m wearing something a little out of the ordinary. The fact that you look ‘normal’ on the outside and are a lingerie goddess underneath is exciting… and later, the act of undressing becomes more like an adventure. The whole idea of the \u201cplainclothes superhero\u201d is quite a turn-on.<\/p>\n
Clothes that go well over sexy lingerie include structured dresses, pencil skirts and blouses.<\/p>\n
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SET THE MOOD<\/p>\n
If this lingerie unveiling is taking place in your home, take advantage of it. Creating a ‘mood’ can definitely help you feel more comfortable and less awkward. Just wear a robe to answer the door (if you wish to avoid letting your neighbour catch a glimpse) and you can be in charge of exactly how everything goes down, whether it be with mood music, candles or red wine. Alternatively booking a romantic night or weekend away in a hotel for Valentine\u2019s Day could set the mood perfectly.<\/p>\n
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DON\u2019T RUSH<\/p>\n
Please don\u2019t dress in a hurry, make sure you have plenty of time to prepare beforehand. Making my partner wait when I\u2019m getting dressed stresses me out \u2013and often lingerie can be a complicated affair. I hate trying desperately to clip my stockings in the bathroom when it just isn\u2019t working. It\u2019s so much nicer to have a calm, meditative dressing-up experience before you see your partner, which just makes you more excited about showing yourself off. Enjoy the ritual.<\/p>\n
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STEP OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE<\/p>\n
It\u2019s okay to step out of your comfort zone. This may seem contradictory to tip #1, but it\u2019s not. What I mean is, don\u2019t be afraid to try something exciting or different \u2013wearing lingerie is allowed to be a fantastical experience that isn\u2019t necessarily grounded in the ‘practical.’ Let your imagination or your desires take you wherever you want to go and there is plenty of room for experimentation.<\/p>\n
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FORGET THE TRENCHCOAT<\/p>\n
I view the whole trenchcoat and lingerie as an ‘advanced’lingerie skill that requires a lot more confidence than might be doable for the lingerie neophyte. Especially because it really only makes sense when the journey is just point A to point B, as the outfit of trenchcoat & lingerie won\u2019t make you feel particularly comfortable if you realise you forgot something and have to drop by the pharmacy or the supermarket. Plus, if you\u2019re feeling nervous, suddenly dropping a trenchcoat to reveal your entire lingerie outfit might make you feel more simply exposed than seductive.<\/p>\n
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SURPRISE YOURSELF<\/p>\n
Your partner probably loves any lingerie surprise, but what about surprising yourself? Lingerie is more than just bras and panties. Corsets, garters, teddies, robes, hosieryand slips are all part of the lingerie wardrobe to mix and match to your liking. Lingerie is never limited. Maybe your splurge is one pair of silk panties or a super fluffy robe. No matter how much you spend, buy something that will make you truly excited to wear. Pretty lingerie and intimates is a different vision of beauty for everyone. I personally feel like there is nothing better than having my coffee in the morning in my favourite silk robe.<\/p>\n
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IT\u2019S ABOUT HAVING FUN<\/p>\n
If anyone makes you feel like you\u2019re doing the wrong thing or you aren\u2019t completely gorgeous in your lingerie, there is something wrong with them, not you. And if you\u2019re wearing lingerie because you felt pressured into it, that\u2019s a problem too. Only do what makes you feel comfortable, amazing and special – whether that includes lingerie or not, having fun is key to making lingerie work for you.<\/p>\n
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